Feeling a little bored in your marriage? You’re not alone. Almost every marriage goes through ebbs and flows and feelings of stagnation are normal.
The good news is that if you are reading this post, then you have already taken the first and most important step: showing initiative.
Almost every single marriage starts getting stale over the years. And yes, feelings of boredom are serious, but there are plenty of easy (and fun) things you can do to reignite your marriage!
So, if you’ve ever thought, “my marriage is boring”, here are 5 things you can do to spice things up again (and they are all things you can do starting today)!
Boredom Vs. Monotony
Many times, we confuse monotony for boredom. It’s not that you are bored with your partner, it’s that your relationship feels monotonous, like you do the same thing every day. It’s important to note that this is not the same as being in an unhappy marriage.
It may seem like an over-simplified suggestion, but one thing to try is by adding more spontaneity to your relationship. We know, shocking suggestion, huh?
We know what you’re thinking, “if only it were that easy”. Well, it can be! The rest of this post focuses on simple ideas you can implement to add more spontaneity and excitement to your relationship so you can extinguish the boredom bug!
Your Foundation: Reestablish the Things that Brought You Together
If you are feeling bored in your relationship, sometimes the best thing to do is to get back to the basics. Reestablish your relationship with feelings and experiences that brought you both together in the first place.
You can recreate your first date, relive past moments together, or simply remind each other of the qualities you fell in love with.
For example, if laughter was a big part of your relationship, go see a comedy show or take improv classes together. If you first met in a pottery class in high school (like the Crated with Love founders Tyler and Michelle did), go decorate a new ceramic bowl for the kitchen. If your first date was bowling, go see who has the best skills now.
Reigniting those emotions from the beginning of your relationship can help spark the romance back up and can help get your marriage out of the boredom funk!
Discovery: Try New Things Together
We call it discovery, you can just say trying new things together. Finding opportunities to experience new and different things together can help boost spontaneity. Whether it’s a new restaurant in town, taking a road trip to another city and exploring, or visiting a new country, those experiences can help you learn new things about your partner or remind you of qualities you fell in love with in the beginning.
The best part? Creating unique memories together doesn’t have to be difficult! You can even find new things to do together at home! The whole objective is to create some time that is different from what you are used to. Getting outside of the normal, daily routine can give your relationship a feeling of freshness and give you some special time to reconnect with your partner.
Laughter: Don’t Be Afraid to Get Silly
Never underestimate the power of laughter! When things get a little boring, sometimes a few good chuckles are all you need to bring back the bliss! And while it may seem ridiculous, a couple of laughs helps you bond with your partner.
Now, it can seem a little awkward and sometimes we don’t like being goofy, but finding opportunities to extenuate your silliness can help break the ice. Heck, sometimes all it takes is a few outrageous conversation starters to spark things up.
Even on a deeper level, laughter can benefit your relationship both psychologically and physiologically. In fact, taking time to laugh can decrease stress, increase happiness, and can even make you live longer. So, get silly and giggle often!
Date Night: Find New Ways to Date Each other
Want to combine everything we’ve talked about in this article? Invest in date night! Date night is so important to relationships because it emphasizes and focuses on the bond between you and your significant other. If you are going to spend the rest of your lives together, you must consistently find quality couple time.
Unfortunately, too many times we push date night to the side and say that we are too busy or that we don’t have the financial means. Don’t get us wrong, we know life happens! Kids, work, and sustaining a home are not just a priority, they are necessary. But, that doesn’t mean there aren’t ways to include date night. You can even get date night delivered right to your door (for under $20, mind you).
So, if you are feeling a little bored in your marriage, don’t feel bad. In fact, now is the time for you to get excited because it means you now have the opportunity to reignite your relationship and spend some time reconnecting with your significant other!
Want to REALLY Bring Back the Spontaneity in Your Relationship?
At Crated with Love, we focus on creating date night boxes that do all of the things we talked about in this post. Every month, we create a new themed date night that focuses on fun and laughter while giving you an opportunity to reconnect with your partner!