There’s no doubt that planning your wedding is one of the most exciting times of your life! From the moment you get engaged, wedding planning can pretty much take over your life. It can also be a time of stress, too… And that stress can really affect your relationship. One moment, you’re dating and having a good time, the next you’re talking about seating charts, signing vendor contracts, and acting as the mediators between two moms who are sure their way is the best way. So not sexy! Thankfully, there are lots of ways to keep the romance alive while you attend tastings, check out venues, and viewing wedding bands. Here are our top tips for dating your fiancé during the wedding planning process.
1. Plan a Weekly Date Night
Sure, you and your fiancé will be spending lots of time together while you plan your wedding. But let’s face it, talking over the guest list or choosing your menu over a glass of wine really isn’t a date. Happy hour with your bridesmaids or his groomsmen doesn’t count either. Finding time for a date night each week might be a challenge, but we promise it’s worth the effort. Plan a date night each week that’s utterly free of wedding talk… no friends, no family, no checklists. Just the two of you having some romantic time together. Plan to continue your weekly date nights even after you’re married. It’s a great way to keep the focus on the two of you as a couple.
2. Remember Why You Fell in Love in the First Place
Do you have a bunch of gushy emails, texts, or Facebook messages from back in the early days of your relationship? How about photos from your first date, or the first time you went away together? Looking back over your best moments can remind you why you fell in love in the first place. Share all these memories with your partner and make an effort to create new memories to look back on after all the wedding excitement is over.
3. Consider Staying in Once in a While
Staying in offers lots of opportunities for romance without interference from the outside world. If the two of you need a break from all the pre-wedding chaos, plan a night in. Order take out, break out a bottle of wine, and kick off your shoes. After that… just see where the evening takes you!
4. Remember to Include One Another
Spending time doing your own thing is important, but you also need to remember that you are becoming a cohesive unit now. Instead of sticking to girl’s night out every Friday, why not plan a couple’s night out instead and have your friends bring their significant others along for a night on the town? After all, you’re going to be spending the rest of your lives together, so it’s essential that your fiancé gets to know your friends, too.
5. Turn Your Wedding Planning Appointments into Dates
Checking out potential wedding bands may not be your first idea for a romantic night out with your significant other, but it doesn’t have to be that way. NYC-based wedding band, Around Town Entertainment recommends turning viewings of wedding bands into a date by going out for a nice dinner before or after the viewing. You could do the same thing with almost any wedding appointment. For example, if you’re considering a restaurant as your reception venue, why not go there for a romantic dinner? Or, plan a quiet dinner before your cake tasting, and maybe take in a movie afterward. You could even sign up for dance classes to get ready for that first dance. The idea is to make time to be together, just the two of you, no matter how hectic planning your wedding gets.
6. Go on a Health Kick Together
You are probably both thinking about getting in shape before your wedding, so why not do it together? Working toward a common goal is a great way to strengthen your relationship, and it can be fun, too. Sign up for the gym together, join a sports league, or just go for a run or bike ride. Try out healthy new foods together. Even romantic walks in the evening can be good exercise. Imagine how great you’ll both look in your wedding and honeymoon photos!
7. Get Away Together
Taking time just to be together is the key to keeping the romance alive in your relationship. When you’re ready for a break from all the crazy that comes with planning a wedding, get away from it altogether. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive. Go away for a long weekend, take a day trip, or even plan a weekend “staycation” right at home. You certainly don’t have to wait until your honeymoon to have romantic time together.
8. Enjoy Your Fiancé Status While You Can
You will only be someone’s fiancé for a short time, so enjoy it while you can. Drop your new status whenever you make a hotel reservation or order dinner in a restaurant. Tell the waiter “We just got engaged!” You never know what kind of perks it might get you. Even if it only gets you a “Congratulations!” and a smile, it will still show your fiancé how excited you are about your upcoming wedding.
9. Practice Compromising and Communicating
Wedding planning will be full of ups and downs for both of you. Don’t forget to listen to each other’s opinions and make compromises so that you’re both happy. Communicate with each other about problems or worries as they come up, and don’t let things pile up. Learning how to share the load now will be an asset to your marriage, and two people working together are sure to find a solution faster than one person working alone.
10. Don’t Forget What Your Wedding is Really About
Your wedding day should be about the two of you as a couple and your love for each other. Of course, you’ll want to make sure your guests have a good time but don’t let anyone talk you into making plans that don’t fit your personalities. You will both be much happier in the long run if you remember that your wedding is a celebration of your relationship and not a chore that you have to just find a way to get through.
As you plan your wedding, use our tips to help keep the romance alive. There’s no reason you have to stop dating now, or even after your wedding takes place. Taking time just to be together during this stressful and chaotic time will strengthen your relationship now and in the years to come.
Written by Donna Maurer.
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