How to Find Your Inner Confidence While Being in a Long-Term Relationship

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Here at Crated with Love, we usually focus on strengthening the happiness and bond in your relationship. However, something that is often overlooked when it comes to maintaining a healthy relationship is self-love. You can be the most confident person in the world and still have your moments of doubt. This can be especially true if you’ve been in a relationship for quite some time.

We get comfortable. We don’t worry so much about our looks or the image we give off anymore because our partners tell us, “You already look good” and it’s easy to accept it and save the hassle. It starts with one weekend. You’re running late so you don’t style your hair the way you like it, or you go for a more casual look because you don’t want to iron your nice shirt.

Over time, we start feeling like we’re not as good looking or confident as we were before, which takes a toll on the way we think of ourselves and our relationship. Here are some ways to keep your inner self-confidence at an all-time high that will help keep both you and your relationship strong.

Have a Girls or Guys Night

Nobody can help lift you up like your friends! As we all get caught up in our full-time jobs and daily responsibilities, it’s easy to overlook the importance of putting effort into our relationships with not only our partners, but with our friends. Having a girls or guys night together every once in a while is much more important than people realize, not only for your friendships, but for you as well. As everyone often gets so busy with their own lives, it’s always helpful to choose a dedicated day or night where everyone can easily add it into their schedule.

Whether it’s just going to grab a drink after a long day of work or having a full-on movie night and watching your favorite movies while ordering in, maintaining strong friendships is a great way to raise your own self-confidence.

Revamp Your Wardrobe

When we look good, we feel good. On weekdays, it can be easy to come home straight from work, change out of your work clothes and slip right into your most comfy pj’s. But wearing the same kind of clothes day in and day out can get boring.

In order to raise your self-confidence, splurge on a few new items that will spice up your wardrobe and make you feel extra confident. It can be by getting some new work clothes, finding some comfy loungewear, or just buying a new pair of shoes. Whatever it is, everybody deserves to treat themselves every once in a while and buying clothes that make you feel good will only help boost your confidence and self-esteem.

Switch Up Your Look

Whether you go full glam every day or apply only the bare essentials, we all have our tried-and-true look and we tend not to deviate much from it. Try new looks! Girls, switch up your makeup. Guys, try a new hairstyle. If you’re not sure where to start, you can always use the power of social media or look towards YouTube tutorials.

If you’re looking for a switch-up with your hair, you can also take advantage of social platforms for inspiration as well. Take for example, oVertone’s Pinterest. They are a professional hair dye company whose social media channels offer great hair inspiration with hairstyles and color ideas that will take your current hairstyle and give it the va-va-voom you’ve been looking for. Whether you want to get a new haircut or completely change your hair color, giving your hair a new do’ can always help make you feel amazing and give you the feeling of a new you.

Change Up Your Routine

Grabbing some snacks and putting a show or movie on Netflix is one of the best date night activities. Not only can you wear your most comfortable clothing with your favorite person but it’s also right in the comfort of your own home. While Netflix is something that we can never see going out of style, it’s always good to add a little spontaneity to your date nights. Whether it’s a weekend or the week just started, get out of the house and do something fun and different with your partner. Is there a brewery you’ve been dying to check out? A movie that you’ve been wanting to see? Or just want to have a romantic date night in? Amp up a typical weeknight and have a midweek date night. This will be a nice change of pace to your normal routine and help make the week go by even faster! Plus, it will serve as a nice excuse to get out some of your favorite date night outfits and looks you haven’t sported in quite some time.

Do Something for Yourself

If you’ve been with your partner for a significant amount of time, chances are you’ve gotten used to doing most things with them. Whether it’s going out with mutual friends together, going to the movies together, or picking up a new hobby together, it’s common to do things with your other half. Even though it’s wonderful to share these experiences with your partner, it’s important that you do things for yourself as well.

Frequently, we get so caught up in our relationships that we forget “me-time” is essential for you and your relationship. Make sure to schedule in some personal time every once in a while. Try some new activities that sound interesting to you. If there’s a painting class you’ve been dying to do, sign up for it! If you’ve always wanted to try a hot yoga class, do it. Who knows, maybe you’ll really like one and end up finding a new hobby (which itself has many benefits)!

No matter what it is, doing something completely for yourself will help boost your confidence and self-esteem.


Finding someone you love enough to be with after many years is an amazing thing that brings a ton of joy into our lives. We get to see them every day, trust and confide in them, and do basically everything together. Unfortunately this can cause unforeseen issues with our own self-image.

Life gets busy, we barely have time for our partners, much less ourselves. However, it’s crucial that we make time for ourselves. The happier you are with yourself, the happier you can make your partner, family, friends, and other loved ones.