You were inseparable. Days were spent enjoying this new experience of love and excitement. Every day was a new adventure as you got to know a little more about each other’s interests, dreams, fears, and goals.
Now, years later, you feel your relationship has gotten a little stale. The good news (or bad news, depending on how you view it) is that this is completely normal. You’re no longer discovering something new about your partner every day, you’ve done everything you can think of, the spontaneity has slowed down. Date night is going out to the same restaurant every month or an escape to the movies. What was once a spontaneous expedition of falling in love has turned routine.
Keeping your relationship thriving is actually pretty easy to do. It just requires a little break in the monotony. Here are 3 of some of the most common problems your relationship will face, and the solutions that will help you overcome those obstacles, together.
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1. You can set a clock to your “couple time”
Does every day feel like the same routine? You each get up, brush your teeth, get dressed, and go to work. When you get home, you hop and the couch, turn on Netflix and watch one of “your shows”, all the while browsing social media. Every day, the conversations are the same. Good morning, how’d you sleep? How was work? What’s our plan for dinner? And my favorite, did we get any mail?
Solution: Implement some fun activities. One of my favorites is “High/Low”. When you are sitting down to eat dinner each person gives their favorite and least favorite experiences of the day. Instead of just having the same dinner, introduce a special cuisine every night. We’ve all heard of Taco Tuesday, but have you heard of Frittata Friday?
The whole point is to create new, exciting memories. If you take the time to change your routine and spend time together, you can break the monotonous schedule we can sometimes fall into. Remember to laugh and have fun. Often the corny, random activities are the ones that work the most.
2. You have nothing to talk about
Does it feel like most of your conversations include experiences you had with people from work, or what you read on Facebook? Does it feel like that’s the only thing you can talk about? A large reason why relationships can sometimes feel boring is because we fall into habitual conversations that reoccur every day. There’s nothing new to discuss that you haven’t heard before. You end up asking the same questions but giving a slightly different answer each day that’s quickly forgotten.
Solution: As easy as it is to just say, “find something to talk about”, we all know that sparking up a conversation can sometimes feel awkward, especially if it doesn’t come up naturally. Then again, a healthy relationship requires you both to keep growing together, and that’s part of the challenge. Every day you should try and find out something new about your partner. A good way to do this is to find something that stood out to you during your day and talk about it with your significant other. It could be something about money, politics, spirituality, or even something that happened in someone else’s relationship. “Bring it to the table”, so to speak, and find out what the other person thinks. You could also try one of our 25 conversation starters.
The whole idea is growth. Communication is one the most important factors in a relationship, and you should treat it as such. Learning something new about your partner is one of the best things you can do to strengthen your relationship.
3. There is “nothing to do”
This is one of the biggest excuses we fall back on in our relationships. There is nothing to do, so let’s just watch TV. Don’t fall into that trap. There is always something to do; all it takes is a little creativity and effort.
Solution: Although it is one of the biggest excuses we make, it is also one of the easiest things to fix. Take a trip downtown and check out some stores or go to the park for a picnic. Instead of watching TV, play a board game or take a quick walk around the neighborhood. Have you ever heard that you should exercise at least a half an hour every day? Well, the same thing goes for your relationship. Make the effort to do something with your significant other every day. It doesn’t take much, just time. It doesn’t even have to be expensive. Here’s a list of 10 affordable date night ideas you can try.
There’s nothing wrong with getting a little comfortable with your partner after years of being together. However, that shouldn’t stop you from bringing the romance back. These 3 solutions should help make it a lot easier. Remember, you’re never too old for some fun!
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