It’s time again. It’s a new year and it’s time to make resolutions! The great thing about 2020 is the fact that not only is it a new year, it’s a new decade! This can be super helpful to improve your mentality if you’ve had a rough 2019!
Now, we all know the common resolutions: Lose weight, go to the gym, eat healthier, save money, get a promotion, be more social. But no one seems to think about making resolutions as couples.
It’s easy to forget that relationships take work and effort, especially once life becomes more routine. You wake up, make breakfast, drop the kids off, go to work, pick the kids up, go home, make dinner, rinse and repeat the next day. Do you see anything wrong with that? There’s usually no time for your partner or spouse in there.
A new year is the perfect opportunity to make some changes to your routine and prioritize your relationship. Below we’re going to talk about some of the best new year’s resolutions you can make as a couple to strengthen your relationship and grow closer together.
Have regular date nights
One of the best things you can do for your relationship is have regular date nights. It doesn’t have to be fancy and grand. Crated with Love founders Tyler and Michelle decided to put $20 aside every month, and no matter what, use it for a date night. Weather it was going out for ice cream, a walk in the park, going to a museum, or the classic movie date on $5 Tuesdays, they noticed the immense impact it had on their relationship.
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Say “I love you” more
Yes, we know our partners love us and they know we love them. But there’s something special about saying it and hearing it. It makes you feel happier, lifts up your spirit, and makes you feel less alone. Going too long without telling your partner you love them can also start making them feel like you don’t feel that way anymore, even though it’s not true.
Be sure to also tell each other you love each other not only through words, but actions. According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 love languages that people show love and affection. Figure out which one you and your partner prefers and use that to help you show each other love.
Compliment each other more
This one is tied pretty closely to the new year’s resolution above. We tend to forget to compliment our partners because we think “They already know I find them attractive.” But how great does it feel when your partner tells you how amazing you look? Especially when you least expect it. Make it a point to compliment each other more.
Work on conflict resolution
Even the closest and happiest couples can improve their conflict resolution skills. Practice these skills when you’re happy so you can be better prepared for when conflict arises.
Be more physical with each other
This doesn’t just mean sex. Being more physical can be playing with your partner’s hair while watching a show together or greeting your partner with a hug and a kiss when you see each other.
Be more vocal
This can be hard for a lot of couples. Make one of your new year’s resolutions to speak to your partner more. Weather it be about your day, something that’s been on your mind, or, arguably the hardest, about a problem you have in your relationship. A lot of couples tend to hide problems they have with their partners due to a fear of causing conflict. This is where the conflict resolution we talked about earlier comes into play.
Couples that talk about their issues with their partners are much happier and actually fight less than couples who do not. Take this new year as an opportunity to look at problems from a different perspective. They’re not something to be feared, but something that will make your relationship stronger if you take the necessary steps.
Eat healthier together
It’s no secret sticking to a diet can be extremely tough. This is where diet buddies come in. Now add to the fact that your diet buddy is your partner and you’ll both keep each other accountable! Meal prepping together makes it even easier and cheaper. Every Saturday or Sunday, grab all your ingredients, fire up the stove, and cook up a bunch of delicious meals for the rest of the week.
Create a budget together
Managing finances is extremely important in a committed, long-term relationship. Take the time to print out a budget template, fill it out, and follow it. The feeling of security from having and following a budget does wonders for your and your partner’s mental health.
Create an “I love you jar”
We really like this idea because it helps you remember how you truly feel about your partner during conflict. Grab 2 jars, and a bunch of small pieces of paper, whether it be a couple packs of sticky notes, or sheets of printer paper cut up into smaller pieces. You should each have at least 365 pieces.
Reserve a spot for these jars, the pieces of paper, and some pens (never hurts to have extra, those things are always disappearing). Every single day, write 1 thing you love, appreciate, and/or find attractive about your partner. It’s extremely important your partner does not see what you write and you don’t see what your partner writes. Put these notes in your partner’s jar.
When a fight arises between you two, take a moment to go to your jars and pull out notes. Read them out loud to help you both remember why you are together and diffuse the situation.
The new year is a great way to get that boost of motivation and feeling of a “clean slate” to get our goals going. Take the opportunity to use this event as a way to improve your relationship as well. Most of the resolutions on this list can be done without requiring too much time or energy. If these resolutions help your relationship in 2020, we’d love to hear from you! Send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. 🙂
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