3 Ways to Avoid Becoming THAT, “Old Married Couple.”
January 27, 2017 | by Victoria
Are you and your partner starting to feel like THAT old married couple? Here are three things you can do to bring that spark back into your relationship.
The beginning of a relationship is (almost) always easy. You have everything to talk about, because everything is new: your favorite things or stories from your childhood. Everything is free game because it’s all unexplored territory. But when you’re in a long term relationship, you almost get to a point where there are no more stories to tell.
There’s this episode of How I Met Your Mother where Ted, the main character, is telling his wife a story and she finishes telling it for him, because she’s already heard it. Then they continue telling each other stories, but they come to realize that they’ve told each other every story they know, finally considering themselves an, “old married couple.”
Here are 3 ways you can avoid becoming that, “old married couple.”
1. Share a TV show together.
It’s a great way to get you both excited about the same thing. And every Thursday at 7pm you get to cuddle up on the couch together and wait to see if your favorite character survives the episode. It’s also entertaining to explore theories about the show with your partner throughout the week as you await the next episode.
2. Share a hobby together.
Whether it be hiking, cooking or gardening, it’s a fun way to bring you both together. It’s also important to make sure it’s a hobby you both enjoy. But picking new trails, new recipes or new vegetables to add to your garden with your partner is great team building. It’s a fun way to learn more about each other.
3. Share new experiences together.
Go somewhere you’ve both never been. There’s probably somewhere you’ve both been wanting to explore, but you’ve just been putting it on the back burner. DON’T! Finally take that trip to Boston you’ve been talking about for years. Attend that concert for that band you both love. Go to that restaurant you’ve both been wanting to try. It doesn’t have to be big, but it should be new for both of you. The fun is in sharing the moment together.
Maybe becoming, “an old married couple,” isn’t the worst thing that can happen. But being old and married doesn’t mean you have to run out of stories. It doesn’t have to mean boredom or complacency.
According to an article in the Wall Street Journal, “new experiences also can activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with powerful neurochemicals related to pleasure and bonding—the same circuits triggered when a person first falls in love.”
Here’s to more cheering on your favorite character, here’s to more plants in your garden, here’s to Boston.